Important Parenting Tip of the Day… Guilt vs. Shame

There has been much talk (at least on my Facebook feed) of the Kermit Gosnell abortion/murder trial of late and I just wanted to say something to all of those who have had an abortion or contemplated an abortion. In reading these stories and seeing these pictures there must be a flood of guilt and the feelings of shame, regret and hopelessness that accompany that guilt.

I want to help you with what you are going through. First of all some definitions: Guilt is our condition. It is where we stand, we are all guilty. Shame, regret etc. are the feelings we experience as a consequence of the condition.

In our culture the only thing shameful is having shame. The only regret we express is coming to grips with the idea that we don’t love ourselves enough.

To acheive some enlightnement in this world is to believe that we are not in fact guilty of anything and the shame needs to be put down in order that we might be happy.

If this is how you are living one of two things will likely happen. Either you will grow cold, so hardened to your actual guilt that you will come to dissociate your actions with any sense of right and wrong. You  will become a sociopath.

Or it is possible that your guilt will eventually break through your efforts to deny it and your shame and regret will overwhelm you. It need not be that way. You can actually take your guilt and do away with it.

In Isaiah 6, the prophet meets God in the throne room and when confronted with his guilt he cries out, “Woe is me for I am undone. I am a man of unclean lips and come from a people of unclean lips.” To be undone with guilt is a horrific thing, which is why we want to push the consequences of guilt as far away as possible. To hurt like that is nothing that anyone in their right mind pursues as an end in and of itself. However, if in becoming “undone” you have hope of being made right again, of someone taking the actual guilt away, well that is a whole other story.

This is what I offer to anyone who has had an abortion: Removal of guilt. Let the reality of Christ overcoming the grave sink into your bones as you look to him to bring you out of your own pit. Look to him to actually take you to the place of Judgment and defend you saying, “her life is hidden in mine – she is not guilty.” Look to him to stand at the right hand of the Father and he will give your name to the keeper of the book of life.

Look up dear sister, know that those whom the Son of God sets free, they are free indeed. When that happens, guilt is taken away and you stand as a new creation.

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